Would you argue with me if I said that we have become a culture of whiners?Â Leaders — and of course I use that word not to refer to a position, but to a frame of mind and action — leaders don’t whine.Â And our world needs us to lead.
Whining connotes powerlessness.Â And unfortunately it also sucks the energy out of others.Â Leading does not mean turning a blind eye to difficulties.Â Indeed, good leaders are brutally honest about the facts.Â But then, consciously or otherwise, when they see difficulties they choose one of two paths: acceptance, if the problems lie outside their influence, or action to stimulate change.
So, you might monitor your inner whiner this week!Â When some difficulty â€“ a jerk, the weather, the copier, your Achilles tendon, your teenager – is stimulating you whine, take a breath, one deep breath, and ask yourself: will I lead?Â If you want to lead, then ask yourself:Â Act or accept?
So:Â Observe the whiner.Â Choose to lead.Â And ask yourself: Should I accept it or act?
To lead with your best self,