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Back in the day (about 5th grade, as I recall, yet heading forward towards high school), we spent a lot of time putting other people down. Sometimes it was public. Most times it was when you were walking to school, from a game, or milling around at a dance, and somebody’s name came up. One categorization was thrown around quite a bit: “He (or she) is so immature.” I’m pretty certain my three surrounding sisters used it regularly to peg me. It often came with the invective: “Grow up!!!”
Whatever the heck “being mature” was, it was definitely something to aspire after. (Today, it’s often just used to describe films and who they are designed for, as in “for mature audiences.” And increasingly it seems to be a polite synonym for “old” or “elderly.”) But, hidden in there is some value content, don’t you think? Do you aspire to be mature, or did you automatically become so when you could legally drink, drive a car, or pay a mortgage?
It kind of feels like LEADERS should definitely be mature, right? And that some of us — or all of us some of the time — don’t “act” mature.
A few years back I ran across an amazing dialogue that captured the essence of maturity. And yes, it deserves, our aspiration. It has become my personal litmus test ever since. I offer it to you as a companion, a query to take through your day, especially with reference to those who “follow” your leadership:
“The trouble with the world,” said the Master with a sigh “is that human beings refuse to grow up.”
“When can a person be said to have grown up?” asked a disciple.
Thanks for this morning’s gifts.
One of the best definitions of “mature,” I have seen is that a mature person does not do or say things that make a situation worse. A mature person says and does things to improve a situation.
Maturity can be on the surface only. I have known terrible persons, who can put on an act, appear mature, but in the end they will destroy good people, and good ideas.
A mature person will accept both the positives and negatives of approving, or implementing a plan, and not call those persons talking about the negatives or cons as negative persons. The weak points of plan should never be ignored, nor the persons asking about them.