Hey Leader: Take the first step

Back in 1989 I remember tenderly touching Jennifer’s swollen midsection and saying, “I think I’m going to hit the next person who says, ‘your life will never be the same.’” I knew having a child would change our lives forever – and I knew with a knowledge that would admittedly deepen over the years – … Continued

Why They Misunderstood What You Said!

Before reading this post, please bring to mind an important partnership, and one where you have stumbled in communication and/or currently have something you’ve been holding back, out of concern it won’t be heard well. What would you like to share with the other?  “Open communication” is the most frequently cited driver of great pairs. … Continued

Mastering Open Communication in your important dyads

  This week, I invite you to walk through an exercise in Leading by Two.  1. Recognize your partners: With whom are you Leading by Two? My partners and I have become quite clear that “Leading by Two” (LX2) describes not only a what – a relationship with a single essential partner – but it … Continued

A Radical Common Sense Way to Hit Your Goals

Maybe you have 2022 goals. Yay. Maybe you don’t. No big deal. In both cases, you may have trepidation. Self-doubt and some past disappointments with goal-setting may cause you to seriously doubt if you’ll hit your goals (or even stay after them), and you think:  So why set myself up for disappointment? But what if … Continued

You Can Lead on Covid

 Ever wonder how a great quotation can be so meaningful? “To be or not to be…” Maybe because it’s the paradox:  common sense and uncommon wisdom. It reminds you of what you know, but it tells it to you in a way that flips your brain to completely change the way you think – and … Continued

An Antidote for Suffering Leadership – The Sequel

In my last post, I shared the inspiration and perspective I had received from reading Viktor Frankl’s Man’s Search for Meaning while I was in a period of suffering. Frankl gave me comfort. Then, when I shared both the suffering and the comfort, so many of you offered me further comfort, solidarity, and inspiration. I … Continued

Leading Through Thanks and Suffering

I have had a hard year. I won’t go into all the reasons why, but to name just a few… My wife accepted a big job in DC, and I’ve been trying to live productively in two places 2000 miles apart. One of our kids was diagnosed with a lifelong auto-immune condition. Another struggled to … Continued

Challenge to Authority – Authority Responds

Last week, I wrote about Dolores the PhD science student, and the power that her tenured leadership lab researcher had over her teaching assignments, research and future career. Dolores spoke (her) truth to his power. I promised that I’d share the sequel. If you consider times when you perhaps challenged authority, you might anticipate that … Continued

Engage the Power Shift that’s Upon You

When Laura and I are coaching individuals, pairs, and teams, these people offer the amazing gift of peeling back the layer of what I call “cool me.” Our clients present “cool me, no worries” to investors, employees, partners and themselves.  I’d like to show a little from the last two weeks of what indeed is … Continued

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