What Men Say, What Women Hear

Special 12th Anniversary Guest Column By Katherine Crowley and Kathi Elster We recently appeared on a late-night television show to promote our new book, Mean Girls at Work.  Our hosts, two male comedians, were very surprised to learn that women react to teasing, sparring and criticism very differently from men.  “When you insult or yell at one of … Continued

Great Leaders Use Influence, Not Power

Special 12th Anniversary Guest Column JOEL GARFINKLE: Great Leaders Use Influence, Not Power Many leaders confuse influence with power. However, there is a vast difference between the two and the simple act of learning that difference and how to use it can move your career ahead in unexpected ways. To illustrate–a story. Jody was a senior VP at a … Continued

Know How Important You Are

Special 12th Anniversary Edition Guest Blogger: Jim Kouzes   First the bad news. Tuesday, October 16, was not a very good day for bosses. It should have been a good day—it was Boss’s Day after all—but it wasn’t. Instead of getting congratulatory notes, candy, and flowers bosses nationally got a report card from author and … Continued

When A Problem Won’t Go Away

My wife and son and I were on our way back from the airport and were approaching the 7-mile long San Mateo Bridge. It usually moves at an easy 60 MPH clip, but we could see it was a tenth of that speed and slowing often to a stop. We were fit to be tied! … Continued

Building on the Positive When Faced with the Negative

Special 12th Anniversary Guest Column KIM S. CAMERON: Building on the Positive When Faced With the Negative   We are all familiar with the principle that leaders should emphasize the positive, build on strengths, and focus on abundance rather than deficits.  We know that providing positive feedback is likely to produce higher productivity and higher engagement that criticism … Continued

Are You Too Critical? Research Says…Probably

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My 21-year old daughter stopped me in my tracks.  “Have you ever heard your tone of voice with Jack (her 14 year old brother)?” she asked me this week.   The implication was clear and clearly troubling!  Of course, none of us do hear just what we sound like.  Nor do we measure how often we … Continued

What to Get Dad: Compassion and Curiosity

SPECIAL FATHER’S DAY EDITION What to Get Dad: Compassion and Curiosity As we celebrate Father’s Day, explore with me two questions: How do dads lead? And what do dads need? Back in the day – through the ’50s and ’60s – dad led by protecting and providing, establishing order and rules. In the identical 1,400 … Continued

AMY LYMAN: How a Simple Action Can Become a Story

Special 12th Anniversary Guest Column AMY LYMAN: How a Simple Action Can Become a Story In the thirty years that I have been studying organizations and leaders, I’ve come to greatly appreciate the value of storytelling as a way of sharing values and lessons learned. During my time working with the 100 Best Companies, I’ve come across some fantastic … Continued

Dan Teams Up With Maria Shriver

Mulhern will be a regular contributor to Shriver’s blog (www.MariaShriver.com) as one of her Open Field Guides. Click to watch the video.

Joel Hyatt Hits a Home Run on Values and Integrity

Take a leap with me this week into multimedia, with a first-ever video Reading for Leading.  It’s less than 3 minutes in length, but I think you’ll like the point.  I’d love to hear your thoughts on what you think of both the medium and the message.